How to Talk to Kids About Feelings
Kids learn about feelings by watching us and by practicing name them. You don't need perfect words — just curiosity, validation, and space.
Quick answer
Name feelings without fixing them immediately. Ask what a feeling felt like in their body, and share your own emotions in simple, honest ways.
Questions to try
“What feeling showed up the most today?”
“Where did you feel that in your body?”
“What helped you feel a little better?”
“Is there a feeling you've been carrying around?”
“What do you wish I understood about how you feel?”
Age-specific variations
Preschoolers
- Were you happy, mad, sad, or scared today?
- What made your body feel calm?
Tweens & Teens
- What's been weighing on you?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
Moment-specific variations
After big emotions
- That looked really hard. Want to tell me about it?
What to avoid saying
- Don't be sad
- You're overreacting
- Big kids don't cry
How to use these questions
- 1Validate first: "That makes sense" or "I hear you."
- 2Ask one question at a time.
- 3It's okay to say "I'm not sure what to say, but I'm here."
Make these prompts yours
Save age-aware questions to each child's profile, get follow-ups, and receive prompts before the moments that matter.
Frequently asked questions
No. Mix light and deep. Kids also need silly, ordinary conversation — feelings talks work best when trust is already there.
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