Questions to Ask Kids When They Are Angry

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“I can see you're really upset. Do you want space or company?”

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“Your feelings make sense. What happened?”

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“Do you want help, or do you need a minute?”

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“What would help your body feel calmer?”

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“I'm here when you're ready.”

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“That was a lot. Want to talk now or later?”

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“What was the hardest part about what happened?”

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“What do you wish had gone differently?”

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“What usually helps you calm down?”

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“Is there anything you want me to understand?”

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“What would help us start again?”

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“What happened right before the anger got so big?”

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“Did anything feel unfair?”

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“What were you hoping would happen?”

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“What do you wish I knew about how this felt?”

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“Was there hurt underneath the anger?”

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“What would make this feel a little better?”

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“What do you need from me right now?”

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“How can we start again?”

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“Is there anything still stuck from what happened?”

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“What would help you feel close again?”

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“I love you, even when things get hard.”